The Boomerang Effect Pt. 1
Love is a crazy thing, we all know that. But the timing of love can be even crazier.
So I have this friend...and he has this problem. He is experiencing the Boomerang Effect and its really been rough from him. Let me give you the background. In the beginning, she like him, she wants to be with him all the time, she wants him to acknowledge her, she goes out of her way to make him happy and she is dying just to get that label..."girlfriend". He's like, yeah ok..I see you, but I'm not ready for all that. He throws those BS lines "I'm not ready for a relationship" and "I don't like labels". In his words, "he's still a G". Now, he is a cutie. He can play the field for years and never do the same chick twice. And he knows that...hence the beginning of the problem.
Eventually he began to dig this girl, but he never could tell her how he felt. He played the emotionless playboy role. So this girl gave her all, and finally got fed up. Moved on. And she moved on right when he was ready to open up. So then he started showing her some love, with the quickness. But it was too late. She was moving on. So he opened up to her. She heard him out, but was not impressed. Basically too little too late. She stopped calling and coming by. So he bought her flowers...very expensive flowers. She never even called him to say thank you.
Now he is all hurt, feeling all distraught because she has not returned a call or answered one in a month. The worst part is that she is just an average chick. I've seen her, she is a 7-7.5 on her best day! He has done girls dirty like this many times, but its never been done to him. Now the Boomerang Effect is eating him alive. He doesn't understand how she can't be interested anymore. I mean no one could ever resist him, so how is this average chick gonna play him. Not the "G" he thought he was huh?
So this poses my first question. Why can a guy never open up about how he feels? Or why does he always wait until she is ready to move on? Are guys scared of rejection?
So I have this friend...and he has this problem. He is experiencing the Boomerang Effect and its really been rough from him. Let me give you the background. In the beginning, she like him, she wants to be with him all the time, she wants him to acknowledge her, she goes out of her way to make him happy and she is dying just to get that label..."girlfriend". He's like, yeah ok..I see you, but I'm not ready for all that. He throws those BS lines "I'm not ready for a relationship" and "I don't like labels". In his words, "he's still a G". Now, he is a cutie. He can play the field for years and never do the same chick twice. And he knows that...hence the beginning of the problem.
Eventually he began to dig this girl, but he never could tell her how he felt. He played the emotionless playboy role. So this girl gave her all, and finally got fed up. Moved on. And she moved on right when he was ready to open up. So then he started showing her some love, with the quickness. But it was too late. She was moving on. So he opened up to her. She heard him out, but was not impressed. Basically too little too late. She stopped calling and coming by. So he bought her flowers...very expensive flowers. She never even called him to say thank you.
Now he is all hurt, feeling all distraught because she has not returned a call or answered one in a month. The worst part is that she is just an average chick. I've seen her, she is a 7-7.5 on her best day! He has done girls dirty like this many times, but its never been done to him. Now the Boomerang Effect is eating him alive. He doesn't understand how she can't be interested anymore. I mean no one could ever resist him, so how is this average chick gonna play him. Not the "G" he thought he was huh?
So this poses my first question. Why can a guy never open up about how he feels? Or why does he always wait until she is ready to move on? Are guys scared of rejection?
posted by Mz Cane at 2:09 PM
3 Comments:
Men know they are a commidity and I think they get caught up in that playin-the-field BS. When it finally occurs to them what life and love is really about, it can be too late. Opening up makes a man vunerable and they don't like that.
Hurts doesn't it? We women feel this all the time. The thing is he didn't know she was ready to move on. How could he? He was too into himself and what he could have along with thinking he had her.
I don't get it. Sounds to me like dude isn't hurt by the girl, but rather his ego is hurt. He did put himself out there with the flowers. If she was anything worth investing in, he would have put his all into the thang from jump.
Dude just saved himself a lot of time. First of all If he wasn't giving his all at start, he was gonna have a hard time staying interested in the relationship. Also if he really was the shit (looks, attitude, etc.) she wouldn't have gone anywhere no matter how long it took him to come around.
Pick yo self up B! Its not that bad. Remember that in the movie, Marcus got to do Robin, Halle, and Eartha Kitt. You are single. Do the damn thang until you find the right one. Cause when you make that committment you don't want to feel like you missing out on anything.
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