How Do You Feel?
I do think that all three of them cared for me too, not necessarily loved me (well I know one of them does....fa sho), but showed some type of deep feeling for me. Each of them had a different way of expressing his feelings. One of them tells me he loves me and goes out of his way to show my by doing nice things for me, one of them spent quality time with me doing absolutely nothing, and the other's feelings were all in his touch. Different people have such different ways of expressing feelings.
I am a vocal person and a physical person. If I love you, I'm going to tell you. You can tell how I touch you, how I kiss you. But I also know I am the last of a dying breed, not many people outwardly express themselves in these ways.
Have you ever wondered why he/she does certain things for you and you just can't understand why? I know I have been guilty of thinking the worst of people. I used to think, "oh he only did XYZ because he wants to do me" or this one, "he came home early today, he must want to go out". Maybe this time there is no reason, maybe he just wanted to do something nice, maybe he just wanted to spend time with you.
There is an interesting book I read. Its called "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. It basically says that all people express love or intimacy in one of five ways. Chapman also states that a person could use more than one of these ways, but that they are categorized in the expression they use the most. These ways are:
1. Words of Affirmation - tells you "I love you" or compliments you
2. Gifts - buys things for the person they care about
3. Quality Time - spends QT
4. Acts of Service - i.e. cleaning the house, washing the car, fixing things
5. Physical Touch - holding hands, kissing, uhh...the "do"
Do you think this is true? Can all expression be fit into one of these five categories? Is there anything you would add?
Woman are so guilty, me included, of needing or expecting outward emotion. Maybe he would rather buy you flowers, massage your aching back, cut your grass, take care of your kids, or stroke you like no other. There are so many forms of expression. So many ways to show you care. My question to you is this, how do you express your feelings? Is it ok to show how much you care even if you never verbalize it or is it something that needs to be heard? I know I said "he" and "him" alot in this post, but I want to hear what the men have to say also. Don't make this gender specific. Tell me what "she" does too.