The Stella Syndrome
I knew you where so young
you were just a love thing and I
I just let you get a taste of my love
I let my guard down
it was only supposed to be one time oh but now we find our selves
doing it over and over and over
cause what we have is only physical
I gotta give you time to let you grow
-Faith Evans "Catching Feelings"
We have all seen the movie, some of us have even read the book, so we all know just how Stella got her groove back. Stella found her a sexy young thing to spend her long days and hot nights with. He whisked her away from all the troubles of her day to day life and loved her like she couldn't believe. This was something new to us. We were used to seeing men with women half their age, I call this the "trophy wife" syndrome? But a woman, with a boy toy? Hhhmmmm. Now it seems like it is becoming more and more common.
I can honestly admit that I have never had a serious relationship with a man that was older than me. My husband is eight months younger and all of my serious boyfriends have been younger. Not much younger, but nevertheless younger. I didn't go searching for a junior, it just happened that way. I guess I have a young spirit. I am a hiccup from 30 years old...I don't listen to jazz, I love hip-hop. I don't wanna go to see the gospel play or to the ballet, take me to a concert and let me scream. I don't wanna play bridge, I'd rather play laser tag or race go-karts. I like tattoos, I like bling. And no...missionary is not my favorite position.
What is it about a younger man that women love? Their energy? Their openness to new things? The ability to "train" them? Ok, so a couple times I got "trained"(and I loved every minute of it. That oooo weeee!!!). Is it that they keep up with the latest trends, whether its music or fashion? What is it about an older woman that some men love? The experience? Maturity? I would love to hear from the men who read this.
In my experiences, I will tell you what I don't like about dating younger men. It has to be their tempers...wooo wheeee. Nothing like a young hot head. They can come with fire, and boy does that burn! In some cases, I have been told that younger men are also a little more jealous and insecure. I've never experienced this myself, but I have heard some nightmare stories about that "crazy..deranged" younger man.
Honestly, I think more women would date younger men if they were not worried about what "society" would say. Family, friends, co-workers. We tend to live more for what people think than for what we want. Crazy huh? But its true.
I got several requests to talk about this topic, so lets give these folks our opinions. Women, could you be in a relationship with a younger man? If so, how much younger? Men, could you fall for an older woman? If so, how much older? What do you prefer and why? Lets discuss this.