The "What-If" Love
The "What-If" Love can be a result of many different situations. The "What-If" could be a first love, a crush we could never approach, a close friend, a married co-worker, or someone who "put it on you". Basically anyone you ever wondered what it would be like if in different circumstances and at a different time or place in life you could be with. If you can't figure out who your "what-if" love is, here is a test for you. Who is the person that you compare everyone else to? That's your "what-if"! There have been many days I sat and wondered what it would be like to be in a relationship with LL, Denzel (yeah Malinda, your man...) or even Shemar or Boris. These are unrealistic dreams; however, "George" my high school sweetheart or "Mike" from the gym are very real possibilities.
We all had a person who we felt like we had undeniable chemistry with. An unexplainable pull towards each other that borderlined on dangerous? Isn't it funny that we never seem to find these people or notice these folks until dating them is no longer an option? Either we are in a relationship or they are in a relationship, they have moved far away or in some cases, they have died. Truth of the matter is, very few people end up with their "soulmate". If there is such thing.
For those of us is relationships, it seems these people always seem to possess the characteristics that our mate's lack. I can only speak of my experiences, and just like everyone who reads this, I have a "what-if" love out there too somewhere. He is the total opposite of my significant in each and every way possible. My bad, they both have black hair and nice smiles. But everything else, is night and day. The way they carry themselves, their attitudes, their interests. Is this coincidence? I think not. We as humans always think the grass is greener on the other side, but many times, once we get there, the green grass browns and crab grass replaces it.
Lord, I hope I am not breaking up anyone's happy home, but I challenge you to seize the moment. You are the only one who knows what make you happy and what makes you truly happy. Is it your current or is it your "what-if"? Every hero needs a villain, because if he didn't have one, he wouldn't be a hero, right? Now this is the tricky part....who is the hero and who is the villain in your life? Is your significant other your true knight in shining armor? Or are you waiting for your "what-if" to come rescue you from your current situation? Hhhmmmm.....
Man, this topic is harder than I thought it would be! So now my questions for you. Is there such thing as a soulmate or is this the classic "grass is greener" scenario? How would you handle a second chance with your "what-if" love? Do you think you may be someone's "what-if" and not even know it? Does your "what-if" know you have this crush? Or is it just like that song "Just my Imagination" by the Temptations or "Hey Lover" by LL Cool J, and they do not even know you exist?