What is Sexy?
As I found out last night, sexy is not necessarily fine or even cute. Sexy is an attitude. An aura about someone. I think there are two types of sexy. Physical sexiness and sexy as a state of mind. From the physical side, I love mysterious eyes. Dreamy eyes. If he has long eyelashes to compliment them, even better! And what about the lips? Thick luscious lips. Thick lips ooze sex appeal. (Not too thick though, LeVar Burton..is not hot, in any form of the word!) I am a sucker for sexy lips and eyes. All my closet friends know that when I met the hubby (that's him in the pic), I was all about his dark eyes and his perfect lips. And the fact that he was a thick guy in general sealed the deal. Don't give me no skinny man! Can't do nothing with him. I am plus-size pimping at its finest, so a skinny man is not gonna do me any good! Even when I was much smaller in high school and college, I always dated people from the football team. I like the way they looked, you know..healthy..fed..$hit if, he was eating, I know I would be too!
Now as for the physical, sexiness can be added. How? I am so glad you asked that question. A little something my cuz and I like to call "The Baseball Cap Effect". Everyone man look at least 75% better with a baseball cap. Well that was until Fabolous started that circus hat trend and didn't brim his hat. A fresh fitted his hot, but not if I can sit my drink on the brim and come back for it an hour later... Brim the damn hat. Tattoos can add sexy, in the right places..please don't come looking like a 5-year olds easel. Drawings everywhere. A nice watch, glasses (for the psuedo-intelligent effect)...all pluses.
Physical sexiness is far less superior to mental sexiness.
But what is the sexiest of all? Intelligence and confidence. A man who knows that he knows alot, but not everything. Can he talk about more than the latest music and the score of the game? If he can be intellectually stimulating then many times the rest may fall into place. As for confidence, a man who is comfortable with who he is and holds his head high. I love it! He may look like a roach with an earring, but if he feels sexy, then he is doing it up. Who is going to think you're sexy if you don't?
Luckily I married into all that. And when we step out, we know we look good.
Now I have not always been this way. I used to have the lowest self-esteem imaginable. I was 145lbs with a great figure and a 4.0 gpa. But I never thought I was pretty, and I damn sure knew I wasn't sexy. I actually thought I was fat, at 145lbs! I had a friend that used to tell me to get it together, that I was beautiful, and the he didn't wanna hear that bull. Funny thing is, I didn't feel sexy until I was wearing a size 16. The size didn't matter, my weight didn't matter, it was my attitude, my confidence. I accepted my curves and worked them! Now, there is not a person out there that can tell me I ain't the $hit.
Sexy is a state of mind...
Discussion time. What is sexy to you? What is more important to you, the way he/she looks or the way he/she carries themselves? Be honest, we can all be shallow at times and if that's you then be you.