What About Your Friends?
Ever since you was a pee-wee, down by my knee with a wee-wee
We been coochie-coo all through school, you and me G
Back in the days we played practical jokes on
everybody smoked with they locs and the yolks on
All through high school, girls by the dozens
Sayin we cousins, knowin that we wasn't
But like the old saying goes
Times goes on, and everybody grows
Grew apart, had to part, went our own ways
You chose the dope gaaaane, my microphone pays
In many ways we were paid in the old days
So far away from the crazies with AK's
And though I been around clowning with the Underground
I'm still down with my homies from the hometown
And if you need, need anything at all
I drop it all for y'all, if my homies call
- 2Pac "If My Homies Call"
I've missed you guys so much...but I have honestly been so busy I can't keep up with my day to day activities. "The Man" has got me hustlin' like Rick Ross. Feel me? My side hustle is just as busy as my 9 to 5, so if you wanna book a Passion Party, get on my calendar now! I've got stuff booked for October already!
There has been so much I wanted to talk about, so many things I wanted your opinion on, but just not enough time to put them on paper. I wish you could guys could update me on how you all have been and what's new in your lives.
So this weekend, I hosted a bachelorette party for a friend of mine from college. It was nice, intimate, we stayed in and had a ball. We were all inseparable in college, but its funny how we have all kinda drifted apart over the years. All of us keep in touch somewhat, but to think 10 years ago, I couldn't go to the bathroom without one of them going with me (no, not literally). But this weekend you would have thought that we saw each other every weekend. We fell into our usually routines, our specific "roles" just like we had in college. We talked and caught up, laughed about college, suckers we dated...nights on the "P" Train..woowoo (ask me offline about this one). The funny thing is, besides the jobs and the families, none of us have changed a bit.
There is still the "reserved" one, there is still the "mother" who continues to teach us things, there is still the "quiet" one(or at least people think she is...boy has she got them fooled), and I am still the party girl who would go crazy if a Luke song were played right now. Our resident chemist and psychologist couldn't join us, but they were with us in spirit.
It made me realize how much I missed my friends, these ladies are some of the best friends I ever had and what a shame to have missed out these past six or so years. One thing for sure, I'll definitely keep better touch now. Not only them, but with several other folks I've missed out on. I think men do a much better job of staying close to the friends they grew up with, my husband has life friends, and I so admire that. His friends are now my life friends too...weird. Does he know my best friends? Could they call and talk to him if they needed to, like I can with NC & DC's Finest or K Hill or Bless? Not likely...
So weigh in...no matter how much we love our friends, why is it that we don't keep in touch like we should? Have you noticed that the people we tend to keep up with are the right here, right now friends. No disrespect to new friends intended, but have you noticed this? The people you see, the people who live close, those are the ones we seem to focus on. Why is that?
posted by Mz Cane at 9:28 PM
2 Comments:
The simplest answer is we grow up and grow apart. Our needs as friends change. No longer do we need that girlfriend to be a roll dog when its time to creep, or party all night long. We need that girlfriend.. who will tell us about being a good wife, mom and citizen. Its just seems easier to do that with people who live close to you. I have realized that my friends fall into different categories.. My Winston friends, My P-Train friends, My SGA friends, My LS's, My Florida, and My Atlanta friends. I love and value them the same. But they all serve different purposes in developing the woman I am today.
As for men they don’t make new friends...life friends easy, they stick to ones they have had for years. Cause to be honest men friendships needs don’t change.
But I am going to do a better job at keeping in touch with all my friends... Even if they are not on Sprint, and disappeared Does anybody know a good private detective. We have a girl that has been MIA since 1999 (Where you at Poopie Yates?) Ms. Cane much love 4-ever
Cane
HMMM how can I weigh in on this subject. Most of our best friends we met in school or college when we saw them on a daily basis. Now that we don't see them that offten we kinda grow apart, but the way to know if they are true friends if when you see each other you can pick up as if you have never been apart. Most of my frineds have moved away and have jobs during the day that they have to do and when they get home it is their spouse and/or kids times. We focus on who is close to us because if we need them we cn see them face to face instead of always being on the phone where wondering eyes can hear. I know there are not enough hours in the day.
What I try to do is call at least once a month, but it is eaiser for me to keep in touch by e-mail. Now that I have moved to the Northern Va area I have been meeting a lot of Aggie Alumi that I didn't get to meet while I was at A&T. So I guess God change where we are at so we can meet new people. I happy for the new people I have met and i don't think we would have met if I have not moved away from my old friends.
I have told all of my friends that I'm going to try to do a better job at keep intouch. =) I like my new friends, but it is like history I can't forget where I came from.
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