Genuine Draft..

They're playing Basketball
We love that Basketball
They're playing Basketball
We love that Basketball

Basketball is my favorite sport
I like the way they dribble up and down the court
Just like I'm the King on the microphone so is Dr. J and Moses Malone
I like Slam dunks take me to the hoop
My favorite play is the alley oop
I like the pick-and-roll, I like the give-and-go,
Cause it's Basketball, uh, Mister Kurtis Blow

- Kurtis Blow "Basketball"

Ok, ok, I'm watching the NBA draft. I must admit this is one of the worst draft classes in awhile. Again no high school kids, the suits are just ok, and my J.J. and Sheldon are no longer plaing for Coach K. This is how you know when its just not that exciting...Dick Viatle did not really yell too much.

This year things are so unpredictable. I expect surprises, but when the whole top ten are transitional, there is an issue. Everyone taken in the top ten, well make that the top eleven (because that is when my J.J. went)could have went 1st or 2nd. There are not any absolute best college players this year.

I don't think I have seen so many trades in the top ten as I did tonight.

My biggest disappointment? Rudy Gay going 8th to Houston and then there is a potential trade to Memphis? I think Tracy McGrady and cry baby Yao Ming need the young energy Gay can bring to Houston. I am in no way a Big East fan, my allegiance is to the ACC; however, I can give props to talent where I see due. Rudy Gay is a phenomenal player, going 8th was a steal. UCONN Huskies are always a solid team, many thanks to Rudy Gay and Marcus Williams. Who, by the way, shoulda went a lot higher than twenty-first.

Tyrus Thomas at four? Wow. Have you seen that fool block? He is a monster. I've never seen a defender jump that high to block. Straight beast. And he can shoot. Number four? If you say so.

Emotional ass Adam Morrison went third to Charlotte. It seems this team should do much better. Stacked with talent, May, Felton, Okafor...and now the baddest white boy America? Yeah, he looks a little like Hannibal Lechter with long hair, but he can ball. ESPN's first draft pool question was, "Who will score more points in Charlotte next year?". Good questions, I am betting on Morrison's crazy ass.

No I can't sign off without talking about my BlueDevils. Sheldon to ATL? I love my boy, but they coulda had someone a little better at number five. J.J. Reddick at number eleven? I can see that. The DUI didn't help. The issues with his back didn't help. Truth is, and yes I'll admit it, Duke players strugle in the pros, so I am surprised they were not upper teen picks. Never again will I admit that!

Well, we are up to the twentieth pick, and so far no point guards have been picked. So much for your future Allen Iversons. Ah point guard at number twenty-one.

So all my sports junkies weigh in...what did you think of the 2006 NBA draft? Any surprises? Any disappointments? Do you think they should let high schoolers back in?

Mary Mary, Why Ya Buggin'?

"Mary, Mary.." WHY YA BUGGIN?
"Mary, Mary.." I NEED YA HUGGIN

Mary Mary Mary you cold thumb suckin
Lookin for you, but you keep duckin
I wanna find you, I gotta tell you somethin
So just be quiet and don't say NUTTIN
Mary Mary Mary why you out there stuntin?
Supposed to be with me, but not you're FRONTIN
We started out new, you used to be true
Now you're buggin, what's wrong with you?

"Mary, Mary.." WHY YA BUGGIN?
"Mary, Mary.." I NEED YA HUGGIN

-Run DMC "Mary Mary"

I am watching the BET awards. I have seen Beyonce, T.I., Chris Brown...and then here comes Mary J. Blige. Now don't get me wrong, I like a few songs on Mary's new album. Good beats, good lyrics. But do you remember when Mary had great songs, with great beats, and great lyrics. Yeah, she was the remake Queen, but she took the songs, flipped them and made them hers! What's the 411 is one of the best albums ever put out. But over the years, Mary has taken a turn, she went down. I hate to say this, but I liked Mary and her music so much more when she was high. Real love, My life, Reminisce, Sweet Thing, You Remind me...those were the hits. Have a drink Mary, I miss you.

Keeping along the same lines. What the hell happened to Chaka Khan. She used to be high on stage all the time, singing her ass off and having a good time. Now that she no longer drinks, or says she doesn't, she is on stage forgetting the lines to her own songs! Did ya'll see Prince help her out? lol. Poor child, Chaka couldn't even remember which key to come in on. Have a puff Chaka, I miss you.

While we are on the lines of Mary, let's talk about K-Ci and JoJo. We all knew that Jodeci stayed high and drunk. Diary of a Mad Band was great! They used to drink on stage! Feein', Come and talk to me, Forever My Lady...classics. And now that K-Ci claims to be clean, he is weirder than ever. This fool is pulling his pee-pee out on stage and fighting with his brother on stage. The final straw? When I saw a picture of this fool and he had his hair permed and flipped in the back just like mine. Snort this K-Ci, I miss you.

However, after watching the BET awards, I have come to the conclusion that Prince can still rock it...Even though his songs were better back in the day, he is still jamming. Prince carried Chaka's performance... Drugs, no drugs, liquor, no liquor, he can still perform. And has not aged a bit! No man ever looked better in 3" heels! Do the damn thing...

So weigh in...do you think they sounded better high and/or drunk? lol. Who else fits in this category? Do the drugs and liquor put you in "the zone"? lol...I feel so bad for even writing this, but it was on my mind.

Sprung? Not Me...

She got me doin da dishes
Anythang she want for some kisses
I'm cookin for her when she gets hungry
All she do is actin like she want me
She cuttin off all my homies
Even all my other ronnies
She ain't even my main lady
See I been thinking 'bout it lately
Man she really don't deserve me
All she wanna do is hurt me
So I gotta get away from her...
But now I'm leaving quickly
Before she come and try to get me...
And I'm takin everythang with me...
Well it all come down to her...

I'm Sprung...(I'm sprung)
Dawg She Got Me...
Got me doin things I'll never do If u ain't been I'm tellin you
I'm Sprung...(I'm Sprung)
Dawg She Got Me...
Got me doin things I'll never do If u ain't been I'm tellin you

-T-Pain "I'm Sprung"

Ok, we have all been there. At the point where we look in the mirror and notice that we have grown pointy ears and a tail and the word jackass is written across our foreheads. The worst part is that everyone else has seen that plastered on your forehead for months. You were the only person that did not realize that you were playing Boo-Boo the fool.

I am a romantic at heart. I fall in love quick and fall in love hard. I love hard. This has been a handicap of mine all of my grown life. I have been hurt so many times because I did everything I could to hang on to men who obviously didn't love me back. I am just now beginning to be a little hard, I no longer wear my emotions on my sleeve. They more they see of you, the more they can manipulate you.

I could write on this topic all day. From the dumb shit I did in high school for a guys "love" to things I let the hubby get away with now...Boo-Boo the Fool has been my middle name. I'm not even sure what the dumbest thing I've ever done for love is. I know one situation that came close. I once dated this guy, the quarterback of A&T's football team, we dated (secretly) for about 3 months. He told me we had to keep it hush, because it was football season and the coach wanted him to concentrate on the ball and not his balls...so secret was ok with me. HeeHaw HeeHaw. I should known when he told me how special I was, and then asked me if I could help him with his accounting homework in the next breath. It got to the point where he would come by, kiss my deeply with such passion, and then put his accounting text book on my dresser with his assignment in it and then fall asleep in my room. And just like magic, it was all done for him in the morning before he went to class. I didn't start to notice until we only saw each other on Monday and Wednesday nights, the days before his accounting class. One night I didn't do it, I left on the dresser and went to bed. He snuggled all close and told me how much he appreciated me. Then, the next morning when he saw I didn't do his homework, he changed to Mr. Hyde...whoa, he was pissed. When I asked him if that was all I was to him, some damn workbook questions, he freaked. That was the beginning of the end. That night, I looked in the mirror, to my surprise I had big horse teeth, pointy ears, and everytime I opened my mouth...Hee Haw, Hee Haw...I was a jackass.

Bad karma came back on him when he was arrested for drunk driving, thus ending his illustrious (not) football career. Mr. Woodruff...um um um. If you were at home doing your accounting homework instead of drinking with Marcus and Jermaine...the cops wouldn't have got your ass. :)

So weigh in...what is the dumbest thing you ever did for the opposite sex? When did you turn into the jackass in the mirror? If this has never happened to you, or you have yet to realize it, then guess what, you are playing Boo-Boo now...lol.

Ghetto Fabulous...

But its all gravy, baby
shots get popped, the cops shut down the party, jeans sag low,
blow smoke out the dutches,
we got love for ya'll but ya'll don't know us

Now we swerve in the suburban and switchin lanes
spend up all our dough on them chrome and thangs,
name our kids some funny names,
Don't hate on us were fabulous

We pay cellulars for local calls
hatin kinds of demons up at the malls rockin cornrows and twist,
thats how we roll don't hate on us were fabulous

- Jaheim "Fabulous"

We all know them. Some of them are in our family, some of them work with us. We are sometimes them. Those people, living Fabulously, Ghetto Fabulous that is.

I thought we would do something light and fun today. (Plus I am tired and don't wanna write too much tonight, I'm trying to see the bed soon!) So we are going to play "You know you ghetto when...". Now participation is key. So we can bounce off of each other today, lol. I'll start it off with a few. And yes, all of my examples are things I have encountered in 29 years on this planet.

You know you ghetto when....

- You are white, but you carry an afro pick in your purse (sorry, I had to, lol)
- You have two TVs on top of each other, one for sound and one for picture.
- When you take your own cheese to Burger King.
- When you have the plastic all over your furniture, and in the summer it sticks your ass like saran wrap.
- When all of the calendars in your house have the funeral home on them.
- You park on the front lawn, to conserve curb space.
- You get your own change out of the offering basket at church.
- Oh this one is better. You know you ghetto when you make change out of the stripper's tips on the floor. Dropping a ten on the ground and taking all that man's ones. (I saw you!)
- You've got the flyest ride on the block, but all your bills are in a relative's name.
- When your children (under 10) have colored braids and extensions.
- When your child can "lean back", "lean wit it rock wit it", "snap ya fingers", and make their "shoulder lean". Shout it to my baby girl Cam! You G-Fab Baby..I see you!
- Ok, when you shout out your kids...lol
- When you name your children after rappers. Especially when that is not even the rappers real name. I know children name both Kwame (like the polka dots, not the former NAACP leader) and JaRule. Uh..Hello, JaRule's real name is Jeffrey.
-When you name your children after malt liquor. Sorry Alize, I had to put it out there. (Your mama was young when she named you.) But now you trying to pass that name off as Alice! C'mon chick!
- You braid hair on your real job. Yeah, Cam's preschool teacher used to do her hair, during nap time.
- You wear flip flops and fish net tops to work. And damn it, you don't work on the beach! You work for the state. DHHS...DMA...Audit...9th floor...you know who you are by now!
- You wear glitter lip gloss and glitter eyeshadow to work. Again...DHHS...DMA...Audit...9th floor...
-While we are there, you know you are ghetto when have somebody steal your car so you can get an older model luxury ride, a mercedes...

Yes, some of the above mentioned are me, lol. And Bruce, you think I'm stuck up, Shiiiit! I could go on for days...

I know some of you can relate! So weigh in...how do you know when you're ghetto? Please feel free to clown anyone on here today.

Its better to laugh with someone as opposed to laughing at them.

Digital Display

First and Foremost...Congratulations Miami Heat on your First Ever NBA Championship!!

My radio, believe me, I like it loud
I'm the man with a box that can rock the crowd
Walkin' down the street, to the hardcore beat
While my JVC vibrates the concrete
I'm sorry if you can't understand
But I need a radio inside my hand
Don't mean to offend other citizens
But I kick my volume way past 10
My story is rough, my neighbourhood is tough
But I still sport gold, and I'm out to crush
My name is Cool J, I devastate the show
But I couldn't survive without my radio
terrorizing my neighbours with the heavy bass
I keep the suckas in fear by the look on my face
My radio's bad from the Boulevard
I'm a hip-hop gangster and my name is Todd
Just stimulated by the beat, bust out the rhyme
Get fresh batteries if it won't rewind
cause I play everyday, even on the subway
I woulda got a summons but I ran away
I'm the leader of the show, keepin' you on the go
But I know I can't live without my radio
- LL Cool J "I Can't Live Without My Radio"

Cells phones, laptops, digital cable, navigation systems, ipods. We are a nation addicted to technology. We tend to gravitate towards things we really don't need, but have to have. We are a digital society. Feening for things we have gone this long without. Things that are not necessary but have become staples in our everyday life.

There are two gadgets I can't live without. The first is my cell phone. Since my cell phone is vital to my career, I find reasons to continuously upgrade it. I buy a new cell phone every two years. I must stay abreast of the newest features with my telly. What in the world with I do with it? How could I call somebody when I'm lost? What if my kids had an emergency? And even more recent, how in the hell did I eer survive with BlueTooth Technology? I can't believe I used to drivae around holding my cell phone to my ear, or getting tangled up in my corded headset. Now I don't even have to touch my phone! Speaking calls into existence. I am a call phone junkie. True enough, I used to feel the same way about my sexy blue pager that I got freshman year in college. Can you imagine thinking you are the shit because you have a pager? LMAO (laughing my ass off)! Now I see people with pagers and pray they have them for strictly work purposes.

The other thing I can't live without is my Time Warner digital package. I can never go back to dial up internet service or life without DVR. Do you remember when dial-up was the only option? It took forever to download anything. You could start downloading, go make dinner, eat, then come back and look at the pictures your cousin sent. Now I even have digital phone through my modem! Cable modem is a wonderful thang... And my Digital video recorder (DVR). You mean to tell me I can pause, stop, rewind and record live television? Shit...sign me up. Now I can tape anything on tv! And watch it anytime I want. Life is so busy I miss all my shows, but no more. No chunky videotapes to keep up with. I can watch Dwayne Wade (Go Heat!)...back him up...slow him down...whatever I want! I can't live without it.

Ipods, Ipod minis, there are so many things out there to get addicted to. Flash drives, laptops, palm pilots. I swear I even know a guy addicted to using on-star in his car. He talks to those people everyday! XM Radio is another thing. Life without commercials is so sweet. If you go t a lot of loot, you would be surprised how many convenience items you could find that you couldn't live without.

So weigh in, what technological advancement can you not live without? What gadget is a staple in your life?

Aggie Pride 'til the Day I Die!

I am sitting here watching a preview for the NBA draft. As I continue to sit and watch I hear schools called one after the other. LSU, UCONN, Gonzaga, Villanova...something seems to be missing. Color? I watch the draft every year, football and basketball. I rarely hear the names Grambling, Howard, Florida A&M, NC A&T, or Tuskegee. There is really no HBCU (Historically Black College or University) representation in these events. Why? I'll tell you why, because our athletically talented brothers do not want to go to our schools. They want to play with the big boys, they want the recognition, they wanna go somewhere where the NFL and NBA can evaluate how they play against their seasoned peers. That is why our teams usually suck and get ass drug by the Division I schhols.

Not only am I seeing this trend, but more and more African Americans are choosing not to go to HBCUs. I am a proud alumni of NC A&T State University. Aggie Pride! But let me tell you, when I first got to A&T it was a shock to my system, like ice water down my spine. I came from a high school where the ratio of blacks to whites was like 1:3. All the blacks in Roanoke lived across town. My father went to an HBCU (NCCU), My Aunt went to an HBCU (St. Paul), My cousins went to HBCUs (Howard and Hampton). So I had already experienced "homecoming", it intriguied me and I wanted to be a part. It blew my mind to see a campus full of our people learning together, playing together, living together. So I knew it was something I wanted to consider, because I never grew up in that atmosphere. So I applied to NC A&T and FAMU. I was accepted to other schools, good schools, like the University of VA, but I had my mind set on A&T. When I got there, it did take some adjusting. No more parents, no curfews, and lots of beautiful black men. Whoa. I felt like Yogi Bear in a park full of picnic baskets. I hung out, partied 3 days a week and 4 if it was Martin Luther King holiday. I hung out on "the strip" in the "cafe". Even the library was nicknamed Club Bluford. The party never stops at an HBCU.

At the same time, I was not the smartest black girl anymore. I was at a place where I was not even in the top ten. Coming from a place where I had always been that girl. I was surround by intelligent black folk, and my mind smiled at this. Somewhere where I fit in. A&T, being a strong engineering school, had a plethora of bright minds. I joined a sorority full of the brightest most socially active women on campus. I always knew I wanted to be a Delta, but wow, when I got to see inside out what the organization was really about. I made it a quest.

When I would come home and talk to people about going to that "black" school, I didn't mind. I was proud, still am. Because truth be told, my African American peers from high school that went to the UVAs, the VA Techs, the UNCs, the MITs, the Georgetowns, they are not really doing shit with their lives. But carrying around a pretty diploma. Not say anything is wrong with any of these schools, but no longer look down on me as I pull up to my nice size home, after coming home from my pretty damn good job. See here is what everyone failed to see. When all those companies were looking for those quotas for their affirmative action goals, guess where they went? If you want to be able to choose from the cream of the crop where would you go to recruit minorities? Would you go to UNC or UVA to selct from a hand full of qualified candidates? Hells no, the big companies came to your A&Ts, your Howards, you Hamptons, your FAMUs, your Morehouses.

So who will support our black colleges and universities if we don't? White students, Hispanic students? Indian students (red dot and feather)? Those who can come to our universities and get minority scholarships? Show our children the options they have. Just because they go to Duke, doesn't mean they will get the job. Show our children the diversity in education. Take them to places that want to see them succeed. Like I said, I am not putting anyone's school down, just showing unwaivering pride in mine!


So weigh in, did you attend an HBCU? Why or Why not? If you did, what were some of the pros, what were some of the cons? No matter where you went, I want to here from you, shout out your alma mater!

With the Thickness

sista big bones
can a brotha walk you home
look like a plate of neckbones
i'd like to keep yo' body warm

frankly i admire yo' style
how you go into work everyday
confidence, in yo' walk and yo' stride
got my nose open wide miss thing
i'd like to take you on a nice date
shoot some riddles have some vittles with you
make no mistake i'll be a gentleman
take yo' coat, open doors things i'll do

sista thickness
get down wit it wit the quickness
hope you won't forget this
put me on ya gift list
- Anthony Hamilton "Sista Big Bone"

Most of you guys know me personally. Most of you know I'm a pretty thick girl. Over the years I have become more and more comfortable with my curves. There was a time when I was discouraged with my weight, I think at that time I was a size 14. I must admit, I do get a little frustrated when I go shopping, but not because of what you think. I get mad because all of the larger sizes are gone. Once upon a time 8 was the most sought after size, now it seems to be 14 or 16. If you wear a 6 or 8, you got it, your clothes are plentiful, but the "average" women have bought up all of my size already.

Dove has created a whole advertising campaign centered on being comfortable with one's self. The campaign glorifies the beauty of everyday women. See the Dove beauty campaign here. Love yourself no matter who you are.

Even with the extra weight, I still think I am beautiful and sexy. This is the biggest I've ever been. I wear the battle scars of my two children; however, I still get looks, I still get smiles, and I still can turn a head. In all honesty, I get more look now than ever. Plus size pimpin' at its finest.

I must admit, being thick is a little easier for a black woman. Men expect us to have curves. As my boy says having some "juice". Black men like thick women. Black men like a woman with voluptuous tits, with curvaceous hips. So I lucked out. Every rapper has a song about a girl with a big ass. From Snoop to Paul Wall, men love something they can hold on to. Miss New Booty. I believe this is why white men are so attracted to me. The funny thing is this, women like it too. Nothing better than I thick man, my husband is my personal teddy bear. I love his size, I love the security I have in his arms.

Honestly, a big man with strong confidence. That is sexy. I have never dated any man that was thin. I prefer football build. I embrace a man's curves, as long as he holds his head high and works it. Dressed nicely, clean shaven, thick, with a beautiful smile. That's my dream, that's my husband.

So weigh in...would you or do you date thick women/men? Does size, meaning waist size, really matter? Some men are the exact opposite, they want the model type. What do you prefer?

Sometimes you feel like a Nut..

Eddie Murphy: [As Bill Cosby] Yoouuu cannot say filth flarn filth flarn filth in front of people!
Eddie Murphy: And I said "I never said no filth flarn filth I don't know what you're talking about I'm offended that you called fuck you!" And that's when Bill got raw on me!
Eddie Murphy: [As Bill Cosby] That's what I'm talking about! Yoouuuuu cannot say......fuck!

-Eddie Murphy "Raw"

I thought we would end this week on a fun note. No heavy subjects...So on that note...

Tonight I was feeling kinda down, I'm kinda going through some things. I needed a real pick me up so I decided to go downstairs and put on one of my favorite all time movies, Bad Boys. Instantly, I'm saying all the lines, laughing so hard I'm crying. There is no one on this plane funnier than Martin Lawrence. No, he is not one of the Original Kings of Comedy. I would certain love to know who deemed them "Kings". I think there are many many more people more talented than the self pro-claimed Kings. What about Richard Pryor? What about Red Foxx? And Even Eddie Murphy was out before these Kings.

There is no comedian that could even mirror the diversity of Martin Lawrence. Who else can brag about hosting television show (Def Comedy Jam), it is not easy to impress Russell Simmons. Who else can brag on his own television show and multi-million dollar grossing movies. He can take the misfortunes in his personal life and turn them into side-busting stand-up routines. It is always nice to see folks who can laugh at themselves sometime. Jaime Foxx is giving him a good run. And if Dave Chapelle didn't go crazy, who knows where he would be.

Big Momma, Jerome, She-nana, Roscoe, Old Otis...he played them all. Was there every a stand up routine greater than you so crazy? Woosah..


Eddie, Robin, D.L., Steve, Chris Rock, Chris Tucker, Damon Wayans, Bernie Mac, Cedric the Entertainer, Mike Epps, Ricky Smiley, Bill Cosby, or Dave Chapelle. Who trumphs them all?

So weigh in. Who is the best comedian ever? Which one of the greats or not-so greats tickle your funny bone the most? What made them so funny? What's your favorite line by them?

Blind Justice

Guess you could say youse the one I trusted
Who would ever think that you would spread like mustard?
Shit got hot, you sent Feds to my spot
Took me to court, tried to take all I got
'Nother intricate plot, the bitch said I raped her
"Damn, why she wanna stick me for my paper?"
My Mo-sci-no hoe, my Ver-sa-ce hottie
Come to find out, you was fuckin everybody
You knew about me, the fake ID
Cases in Virginia, body in D.C.
Woe, oh is me, that's what I get for trickin
Pay my own bail, commence to ass kickin
Lick in the door, wavin the four-four
All you heard was, "Poppa don't hit me no more"
Disrespect my click, my shit's imperial
Fuck around and made her milkbox material

- Biggie in Jr. Mafia's "Get Money"

I want to tell you a story.

On September 26, 2005, my cousin was murdered. A sweet guy, a hardworker, a father of twins age 4. He was shot 30 times. In my other cousin's living room while he slept on a couch. The gunmen, two of them, kicked in the front door and just started spraying bullets. In total over 100 shots were fired. Nothing was stolen, nothing was taken from the home excpet my cousin's driver's license.

This happened in a neighborhood, one of our neighborhooids, where the houses are close enough to open a window and jump in the next house. There were two other people in the house when this happend. One fled on foot and the other hid. Neither of them nor any of the neighboors saw anything. Now it was not that late at night. And in this quiet neighborhood, 100 gun shots did not spark anyone's attention to even peak out the window. Everyone one claims they heard nothing, they saw nothing. But the funny thing is, people on the streets know who did it, some of them can even supposedly tell you what was said before shots were fired. Everyone knows, that he was not the intended traget, but another person who lived in the home, my other cousin. My other cousin, who is also not cooperating in the investigation. My other cousin, who is tearing my family apart because he fails to tell what he knows. If someone wanted to put that many bullets in you, damnit you have a clue why. Don't you think?

It has been 9 months, no arrest. They have a suspect, but are not stongly pursuing the lead. Why? Because in my hometown, Roanoke VA, a blind eye is turned to black on black crime. The police assume its drug related. Might as well let the blacks clean each other up. Black on black crime is a way for the cops to not do their job. We will kill each other off eventually, hence solving the problem. However, these days with gangs so prevalent, it is a never ending cycle of death. Now, my cousin was not into selling drugs he might have smoke a little something now and then, but not deal. He worked at Big Lots, what kind of hustler works at Big Lots?

So initially my problem lies with our community. Why do we constantly stand in the way of justice? Is it that we are terrified we will be victimized next? Horrified by the thought of being hurt or killed by our own? In some ways I understand. Retaliation is a scary thing. But as of right now, I need a good snitch. Someone who may need to work a deal to get off a charge. My other issue is with the police. Are we not citizens of your city to? Isn't their job to protect and serve? Are we not worthy of protection? I feel as if there is so much more that can be done. The prime suspect has a record, one large enough where he should be up locked up anyway. At the ripe ole age of 21, the suspect is not starting adulthood properly.

So weigh in...how do you feel about snitches? Hinderance or help? Why are police so hesitant to actively work our cases? Do you think they feel it is a waste of time even bother when the cycle will just continue?

"Yeah I Did It...and I Hope They Burn In Hell!"

She ain't no different from me
And he ain't no different from you
So we got to live our dreams
Like the people on TV

We gotta stay tuned
Cuz there's more to see (Unbreakable)
Through the technical difficulties (Unbreakable)
We might have to take a break
But ya'll know we'll be back next week

-Alicia Keys "Unbreakable"

We all love movies. Watching movies are a great way to relax and unwind. They transport you to another place and time. A good way to escape. Now, I love a good movie with some good lines. Me and My Cuz, Sherryboo, and my boy Bruce are movie buffs. Between the three of us, we have seen it all. We are those people, the ones that know the lines to every movie. Those people who use movie quotes in everyday life. From Friday to The Color Purple to Pretty Woman. Good lines are everywhere...

The best movies out there for quotes? Hands down its Bad Boys and Friday. I could sit and talk about those two all day... Both of these movies have an incredible duo leading the cast. This allows them to bounce great lines off of one another!

A couple of you have told me how much you sit and watch movies, well...let's see how much of a buff you are. See if you can tell where these come from...Some are easy, others are not. These are a few of my favorites...
Sherry and Brucie...ya'll can't play! lol.. ok, you can if you want.

1)"You got knocked the fuck out!"
2)"Nobody puts Baby in the corner."
3)"I'm an honest ho, and all my ho's honest."
4)"Ain't nobody here but me, and faggot ass Chanucey..."
5)"My bitch better have my money/Through rain, sleet, or snow/My ho better have my money/Not half, not some, but all my cash/'Cause if she don't,/I'm gonna put my foot dead in her ass."
6)"Every time I think I'm out, they pull me back in."
7)"Sit yo' five dollar ass down before I make change."
8)"Do I make you horny baby? Do I?"
9)"You sho is ugly..."
10)"I feel the need, the need for speed, ooowww..."
11)"Don't be alarmed, we're negros."
12)"He gon' cry in the car."
13)"This is the most fun."
14)"I always tell the truth. Even when I lie."
15)"Hello. My name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die."
16)"The suspense is killing me, I hope it lasts."
17)"You ain't shit. You just like your daddy. You don't do shit, and you never gonna amount to shit. All you do is eat, sleep, and shit."
18)"Make me feel good."
19)"No more wire hangers..."
20)"How come yo' daddy don't play cards wit us no more?"

bonus * "Kiss my Converse!"

So someone can attempt them, and maybe ya'll can help each other out! lol..Some are super easy, others..well...let me me know if you need an answer.

So weign in...all my fellow movie buffs, what are some of your favorite movie lines? Could you come up with all of these? Challenge!

Let Go...

Just let go
And let it flow, let it flow, let it flow
Everything's gonna work out right,
Ya know
Let go, and let it flow, let it flow, let it flow
Just let go

-Toni Braxton "Let It Flow"

You always hear people say that its the people you love the most that hurt you the worst. How true this is. Truth being said, people that you could give a rats ass about, you really could care less what they do to you or say about you. It rolls off your back. But those we love, we cherish, we admire and look up to, when they hurt us, it is one of the worst pains we could ever endure. We expect so much more. That's a guaranteed way you can tell how close you are to someone, let them hurt your feelings and see how you take it.

Because we expect so much more from those we love, it takes us longer to forgive these pains. This is the hardest part. Pain. Tears. Anger. The PTAs. When a loved one cuts us deep, no matter if it is a spouse, a family memeber, or a close friend, it usually involves the PTAs.

Now I have been on both sides of hurt. I've done my fair share and I've been on the receiving end just as much. The word "sorry" means to show remorse for, but how many times can you count and seriously say that "sorry" don't always make it beter, sorry still hurts. The key to moving on is forgiveness. It is so important to turn and look to our less than perfect selves for some realization. We have hurt people too. We have carried grudges, blown things out of proportion, instigated fights. We tend to "keep shit going". We must learn to love and get past these relationship roadblocks.

Life is too short. You know that person who you got beef with, who you label as having "issues"? The one that ripped your insides out. The person you were so incredibly close to before the drama? What would happen if that person died tonight? And you sitting there looking like Boo-Boo the Fool over some money they owe you or some he said she said. How would you feel if they never knew how much they meant to you? Evaluate whether or not you would throw it all away. Is your friends not worth this? Is your spouse not worth the trouble?

Let's all kiss and make up, work things through because tomorrow is not promised to any of us. My advice, Let go..Let God. It takes so much more effort to be pissed at someone. It takes so much more effort to remember you are mad. To frown. Just talk it out. Stop acting so damn stupid, so childish, let that hurt go. You don;t have to forget. But forgiveness takes some of the weigh off your chest.

So weigh in...do you hold grudges? What does it take for you to forgive? And if we forigve, must we always forget?

Sexy or Scary?

Ok, this post is directed at my fellas...of course I always wanna know what the ladies think, but I want to hear some answers from both sides on this one.

You better come harder than hard, rougher than rough
Put up your guard, get ready to crush
It's thangs on this field that you just can't change
E.A. Sports, it's in the game, what'cha want?
(The rock in the palm of my hands!!!)
What'cha got? (I got John Madden!!!!)
What'cha want?
(The rock in the palm of my hands!!!)
What'cha got? (I got John Madden!!!!)
Feel the power

-Ludacris "John Madden 2000 Theme"

It is Thursday night, June 8th. Its halftime of the 1st game of the NBA finals. I am looking forward to Shaq and Flash (sexy lil Dwayne Wade for my amateur sports fans) taking their first title as teammates. Dirk and Jason Terry are threatening my hopes here. 46-44. Miami needs to turn up the Heat. Fa Sho. So I just sat here and thought to myself...how many other women are sitting here enjoying the NBA finals?

In a man's wide wide world of sports, it is becoming more common place to find women enjoying the game just as much. I grew up watching everything. My parents both football fanatics. My grandfather and father, lovers of wrestling. My other grandpop, baseball. And collage basketball is embedded in my soul. I am a SportsCenter junkie. The only child of sports fans. That's me. I used to be an outsider amongst women, but more and more I am finding others like me. I have two girlfriends who can run rosters and spit stats on football and college basketball just like me. My partner at work has a lock on hockey...yeah, she's white (I still can't get into it).

For all who wanna chat teams and players here is my list...

*Pro Football - Carolina Panthers, but I love Randy Moss. His country ass keeps it real ( when keeping it real goes wrong).
*College Football - VA Tech Hokies
*NBA - No team..just players; Dwayne Wade, Carmelo Anthony, Allen Iverson..can't forget King James! LeBron does the damn thing.
*NCAA Basketball - Duke Blue Devils...yeah I know
*Baseball - New York Yankees (how can you not like a team with A-Rod, Derek Jeter, and Jason Giambi- the steroid comeback king)
*Track & Field - Justin Gatlin (run Just run)
*World Cup Soccer - Brazil

*I like the Fox's football commentators and pregame show. Terry, James, Jimmy, and Howie. They make it so fun!
*Barkley is my favorite basketball commentator.
*My favorite anchors are ESPN's Stuart Scott, Neil Everett, and Chris Berman. Stephen A Smith has the worst damn suits!

Ok..enough about my favs.

Now, NBA is not my favorite. They stopped playing the game a long time ago. Back in the 1st Michael Jordan era. Now its showboating without defense. Until you get to the play-offs that is. I must admit I am new to the whole professional soccer world, even though I used to play. I have to be a part of the most popular sport in the world. I like Brazil because they have the most passion fo rthe game, the most exciting fans...and shit, the best commercials!

Lets not forget the sports movies! They are the best. Any Given Sunday, For the Love of the Game, Varsity Blues, He Got Game, Friday Night Lights, The Last Boy Scout, Rocky 1-75. All of them, great!

So tell me, is all this scary? Some guys love it, some guy are terrified. Yes, me and some of my girls can hang with the big boys. Some guys feel intimidated by our knowledge. They seem to think its strange or not natural. I'm a lady, all woman, I like frilly things and foo foo stuff too. Now some men love it, we can kick it and discuss it all. In college, I got more guys with sports trivia than I did with the tattoo on my thigh and my daisy dukes.

So on this brink of the NBA Champions being crowned, the Stanley Cup finals going on, the World Cup being played, with the World Series, and the NBA draft in sight...weigh in...for the guys, are women sports buffs scary or sexy? Ladies, do you like to watch sports, if so what is your experience with this. And for everybody...rep your teams! I'd love to get to know you guys better! You can learn alot about a person by who they cheer for!

What's Your GT?

But its all gravy, baby
shots get popped, the cops shut down the party jeans sag low,
blow smoke out of dutches, we got
love for ya'll but ya'll don't know us

Now we swerve in the suburban and switchin lanes
spend up all our dough on them chrome and thangs,
name our kids some funny names,
Don't hate on us were fabulous

- Jahiem "Fabulous"

If you have not figured out by now, I am a spoiled only child. I grew up in a middle class home. I went to county schools not city schools. Nowhere in my background will you find the hood. I am especially particular about restaurants, hotels, and ink pens! I am so "professional" sometimes its sickening. That's Candance.

Now Candee, has a couple GTs, Ghetto Tendencies. I love kool-aid. Orange, Cherry, Tropical fruit. With lots of sugar! But my biggest tendency of all is my love of hood ass music. I will roll the windows down, crank the volume up, and inch the bass to the sky. Anything from the Dirty Dirty...from OutKast to Jeezy to T.I. to Paul Wall to Lil Wayne (I'm a new fan), yeah even Three Six Mafia (Do ya'll remember Tear the Club Up?). I love it all. It is my ghetto weakness. Not that I like these folks, but the fact that I like the worst damn song on the cd. The one with the most cussing, the funkiest beat, the one sending the worst message.

Right now, my necessary evil DJ Khaled's Holla At Me. You know the song with Lil' Wayne, Paul Wall, Fat Joe, Rick Ross, and Pit Bull. I break my damn neck when its on! Ya'll know I got a thang for Fat Joe anyway, then PitBull get on their speaking spanish at the end...what! That's the fire. In addition, I have been revisiting some classics lately. My favorite being Andre 3000 and Big Boi present OutKast. Its like their greatest hits. I know my neighbors hate hearing Southernplayalistic in the mornings! I even pulled out Pac and Snoops's 2 of Amerikaz Most Wanted this week along with Nas'Illmatic! But hey, its who I am. Yes, I am going to SuperJam this year. Tims and Jeans...guaranteed gun shots, but for T.I. and Paul Wall. Its a chance I gotta take! I know I know...ghetto.

After work, business suits, high heels, and panty hose everyday, I get in to car an d blast out the parking lot. That's me. Straight hood...in the car, lol. All of us have something, whether its our music, long painted nails, hard french rolls, the movies you like...something makes you G-Fab.

So weigh in...what's your ghetto tendency? I know most of you on here are just as uppity as I am, but we all have that one thing that is so hood about us. What makes you ghetto fabulous?

The Omen...

I know you'd like to thank your shit don't stank
But lean a little bit closer, see
Roses really smell like boo boo boo
Yeah, roses really smell like boo boo boo

- OutKast "Roses"

Yesterday was 6/6/06...666, the devil's number. The numbers Damien had imprinted on the back of his head in the Omen. So its no wonder why yesterday, people were as evil as ever.

I am genuinely a nice person. I go out of my way to make people happy, sometimes this is a little more difficult than others. Don't get me wrong, I still live my life for me and my family, but I try to be a good person when it come to others. But on 6/6/06, something must have been in the air, because the day started of kinda funky with me have a issues with someone who I thought was a close friend (I know you had to do what you had to do - we still cool, well, we'll be eventually) and it went snowballing downhill from there.

Have you ever met someone who never had anything nice to say? Someone who's aura seemed to emit negative vibes. Someone who never had anything positive to say? She's mad at this, she is pissed because this, that is unfair to her because to that. Damn, do you ever have any uplifting words. I have a so called friend, who is so critical of everything, who is so judgmental of everything, who never has a positive thing to say about anyone. This person would love to tell you how you and everyone else should live your lives. Do you know that person that feels as if the world should revolve around them? And when it doesn't, then there is hell to pay. 666, the day of the devil. Do you have that person who constantly telling you why she is so important, she has to do this and she has to do that because her role in life is just so necessary. But you and your measly little life, she'll get time to make an appearance or ask how you doing when she is not so into herself. Oh, but when she needs something from you, their a double layer of icing on that cake. Just as sweet... And on the day of the devil, my tolerance for this person came to a head. Relax, relate, release...

Here is my other issue. I have a small number of people I consider my close friends. I'm selective. But over the past year, I have noticed more and more that several of the women in my inner circle don't get along, one of them is usually a "Damien", trying to bring the negativity to all. However, you can see both sides of the feud. It makes parties and gatherings difficult. Trying to work the room so one party doesn't think that you are taking sides. So no one thinks you like her better than them. Drama. I try to stay away from inner feuds, Candee Can loves the world. But the awkwardness is sometimes more than I can bear. How do you handle these issue when they are in your inner circle. See even before me, several of my girlfriends have had issues with Little Miss All About Me. I tried to ignore it, defend her, give her the benefit of the doubt, but on 6/6/06. She lost that battle with me. See the storm had been brewing on the horizon, but on this day, it decided to sweep on through.


For reasons of sanity, I try not to surround myself with people like this, but every now and then it just seems someone gets by me with their false intentions and then the true them comes out to play after they have embedded themselves like a tick in your jugular. Sucking you dry all of your positive energy. On South Park they call these folks Succubus.

I do not and will not make time for a "All About Me" friend.

So weigh in, how do you dump a friend? Is it even necessary to tell them or can you just back up and give the relationship some space and pray for the best? What if you have drama between two friends in your inner circle? How do you deal with that? Hang with one at a time? Try to smooth it on out?

He's Just Not that Into You

Oh girl I know that you're
Attracted to me
And I should feel the same
About you
There's just something wrong
I don't know what it is
That keeps us from becoming a two

It's not your looks, you're very pretty
It's not your style, the way you dress is oh so fresh
It's not the way that you carry yourself

Oh, girl I'm sorry
You're not my kind of girl
Cause you're the kind of girl That a man's dreams are made of

Girl listen to me
You're so pretty
I wouldn't change a thing about you
But I've been in love before
So I know how it feels
And the chemistry just isn't there

-New Edition "You're Not My Kinda Of Girl"

There is this book that made headlines a couple years ago, it was called He's Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. It basically explains how sometimes a guy is just not that into you. Even though you like him and you are trying to make it work, its just not gonna happen. It explains how men are such simple creatures, and 9 out of 10 times he didn't call because he just didn't want to. He didn't ask you out, because he doesn't want to date you. He is really not that complicated. There were so many people that I wanted give this book to. Including me, I am not exempt from this topic. I've played the "he didn't call because" game many times. You know, the game where you try to come up with as many reasons as you can, why he didn't call? He was too tired, he worked late, maybe he's studying, maybe he had to do something for his mom or his kids, maybe he is having a rough day. Truth is, if he is into you like you think he is, you would be his support on those rough days. This one I can write from experience.

So here are a few indications that "He's Just Not That Into You" that I have observed. These are in no particular order.

-He only calls late at night. No he doesn't work until midnight.
-He only tells you how he feels about you during sex. That means he is interested in your coochie poo, not you.
-Oh wait, what if you throw yourself on him and he doesn't even want to kiss you or do you? He is just not interested.
-You cannot drop by his house when you want to, you have to call first. Hhhhmmm, suspect.
-You never spend time together unless he initiates it. And you only do the things he wants to do. He called you because he was bored and you were available.
-You have never met any of his friends and/or family. No they are not always too busy, he just doesn't think that much of you.
-You always call him and he never calls back. If he was into you, he would definitely find time in his day to talk to you. No he is not shy.
-Oh this is the main one that has me falling out rolling, he won't marry you because he wants to have his life in order first. Girl please...He can do any and everything else he wants to .

Here are some key phrases to look for...

-I just got out of a relationship.
-I don't want to ruin our friendship.
-Marriage is just a piece of paper.
-I'm married, but we are separated.
-The guys are going to...(fill in with any activity you could possibly imagine) so I can't go with you..

Now don't get me wrong, some guys are really nice about letting you down easy. Some of us are just to blind to see what's going on. How can we avoid being victims of these one-way relationships? Step back, take yourself out of the picture, and look at this thing from the outside. If this was your mother or your sister, would you feel the same way about the guy's actions towards them?

I want so many people to wake up and see things for what they really are. We all have a girlfriend or two...or in my case, three or four that are living in a fantasy world. Listen girlfriend, I've seen friendships end because your friend called herself "looking out" for you. Don't be so far into a guy that you get tunnel vision. Step back and see the big picture. Don't blow up at the person who is trying to help you out, because when he is gone your girl will still be there.

So weigh in...how can you tell that "he's just not that into you". What's signs point to this? Guys, please give us some insight. How do you let her know she's not the one? Why is it so hard to say "you ain't the one"? Or does she really just not get it. How can you tell a friend that she is not the one? Is it something you approach or do you step back and just let the cards fall?

Nothing New Baby...

Sorry Folks no new blog today! I had to get ready for my weekend of parties, cookouts, family, and friends! I'll see most of you tonight and tomorrow!

You can keep yesterday's discussion rolling!

Smooches!

Candee Cane